Chicory

ChicoryChicory (Cichorium intybus) is also known as the Motherliness Flower – from demanding love to giving love freely. 

“Those who are very mindful of the needs of others; they tend to be over-full of care for children, relatives, friends, always finding something that should be put right. They are continually correcting what they consider wrong, and enjoy doing so. They desire that those for whom they care should be near them.” Edward Bach

Chicory relates to the soul’s potential for motherly and unselfish love.  In the negative Chicory state, these qualities become distorted and self-centered. The negative Chicory state often begins in Childhood.

Some of the characteristics to look for include:

  • You are emotionally demanding and you immediately try to build intense, close relationships
  • Like a mother hen you watch over the needs, wishes and progress of family and friends
  • You’re always ready to comment, correct, or advise others
  • You’re overly caring and subtly controlling, which makes others dependent without them even being aware of it
  • You make yourself indispensable
  • You force your good deeds onto others
  • You do few things without calculating your own potential rewards
  • You expect gratitude for doing things for others even if you weren’t asked to help
  • You give conditional love, I’ll love you if …
  • You try to fulfil your desires indirectly
  • You manipulate or play the diplomat, cleverly managing to impose your own will or retain influence
  • You use emotional blackmail
  • You want to hold on to relationships, roles or rituals that have had their day. For instance, you try to make your partner guilty for not saying “I love you” as often as when your relationship began, parents may still regularly perform chores for children who have long since moved out on their own
  • You find it hard to forgive and forget
  • You fear losing your friends, relationships or possessions
  • You feel easily offended, passed over, or hurt
  • You react with self-pity if you don’t get what you expect
  • You may escape into illness to gain sympathy from others or influence over them
  • The ingratitude of others can cause you to break into tears
  • You speak about what others owe you

Even if only one of two of these patterns precisely match your present situation, you need Chicory.

The positive potential for taking Chicory include giving without expecting anything in return. You understand and respect that everyone has to follow their own Life Plan. You deal with your own emotional needs and keep an appropriate distance from others. You know your personal needs and take care of them yourself. You draw on your inner fullness and are able to care for others with true love and devotion.

Empowering statements

  • I give freely
  • I am drawing from the well
  • I am loved

 

Note: taken from the Encyclopedia of Bach Flower Therapy by Mechthild Scheffer