His Needs, Her Needs: Building a Marriage That Lasts

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She manages the household responsibilities in a way that encourages him to spend time at home enjoying his family. This method accomplishes many things, not the least of which is a lightened burden for my wife with regards to daily chores, but also an opportunity for me to make deposits into my wife’s love bank daily, for every time I do a task I do not enjoy for the sake of my wife’s happiness, the sacrifice is noticed and very well accepted. No need to "fall in love" with a new person and have an affair which will obviously damage the marriage. It wasn't so long ago that makeup, hair dyes, and trendy hair and clothes were not beautiful to American men and women. Harley had a good point here about making a list of everything that needed to be done in the house and having each partner put priorities on the item.

I thought people might have been exaggerating when they claimed this was the best marriage book they'd ever read, but this book was really something. Upon marriage, the fight for knowing one’s spouse is generally lost, because there is little fear of losing the spouse, and there is much expectancy of what the next fifty years of marriage will afford. emphasizes the importance of understanding and fulfilling our partner's emotional needs for a successful marriage. In Chapter 5, Harley describes the need for intimate conversation by not only teaching men how to converse correctly with their wives but also challenging them to dedicate fifteen hours each week to intimate conversation (70). Chapter 10 describes the need for domestic support, stating that on average “she wants domestic tasks completed,[and] he has a need for her to complete them” (148).

This is the worst book on marriage that I have read, there are a host of others I would recommend above it.

This fresh and highly entertaining book identifies the ten most important needs within marriage for husbands and wives.If his income is insufficient to provide essential support, he resolves the problem by upgrading his skills to increase his salary. He supervises the progress of those who enroll, and answers their questions on a special Marriage Builders Weekend section of the Forum. Over this book I would recommend Arterburn's Seven Minute Marriage Solution, Emerson Eggerichs' Love and Respect, and many more. He further elaborates on the concept of 'Fair Fight', providing practical advice on how to avoid hurt and resentment during disagreements, and how to instead use these conflicts to enhance understanding and intimacy.

Although the author purports to be Christian, I have a hard time taking that seriously given the content of the book. This books has amazing reviews so obviously it resonated with a lot of people (women mostly) but I must be a freakish outlier of a woman because my needs are NOT what this book stated. Trước khi đọc thì mình không biết chị ấy là ai đâu, đọc xong mới xem Shark Tank và thích chị Linh vì quá thông minh.

In His Needs, Her Needs, Willard Harley identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses.