Sex 101: A Guide to Intimacy for Newlywed Couples

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http://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health/dr-laura-berman-how-couples-have-fun-with-fantasies.aspx To prevent minor tears to the delicate anal lining, it’s a good idea for everyone to trim their fingernails. Otherwise, you can use disposable gloves, which can help prevent discomfort and infection if you have any cuts or scratches on your fingers and hands. Don't judge your partner for what they like. It can be scary for both of you to divulge that kind of information, so listen to them without interrupting. If your partner likes something that you are not comfortable with, let them know that you are not interested in it without making them feel weird or bad about their desires. [14] X Research source

They also answer listener questions on commenting on the hotness of someone else and how to bring up wanting more sex. If you are engaging in fooling around, she will push her pelvis against you and maybe rub up against you. In this episode Toby and Stormy dive into the mixed and confusing messages we get about sex. From the media, to religion, to society/culture… we get inundated with messages and images about sex and this leads us to be both obsessed and repressed about sex all at once. It is one of the only subjects in which we want more of it and don’t talk about it. We recommend the Cowgirl/Cowboy for the analfirst-timer, since the receiving partner controls the pace and depth of penetration. You’re also face-to-face with your partner, allowing for lots of intimacy as well as easy communication. With mild, gentle soap and a clean cloth, wash the area around your genitals and anus. You can also press a soaped-up finger into your ass to clean out the entryway and begin your warm up. Again, gentle is key because the tissue inside the anal opening is delicate. Rinse well when you’re done. Use an enema or anal doucheYou should also experiment with sex toys. Including sexual materials in your sex life can improve your satisfaction and most sex toys can be pleasurable for both partners. [30] X Research source Haavio-Mannila, E., & Kontula, O. (1997). Correlates of increased sexual satisfaction. Archives of sexual behavior, 26(4), 399-419 Especially if this is your first time doing anal with your partner, it’s important to discuss the specifics beforehand. Talk about your likes and dislikes, what you’re comfortable with, what you’d rather not do yet, and how you’ll communicate when the time comes. You might even want to set a safeword for extra peace of mind. If you’re looking for a hot self-lovin’ moment, the Superstar is where it’s at. Kneel on a soft surface with your torso upright, opening your knees to a comfortable position. Use your arm for support or lean against a wall and experiment with angles to find the explore the sensation.

Always always always make sure the vagina and clitoris is sufficiently lubricated. Dryness is a rookie mistake. Never ever touch a woman’s vagina with a dry finger or penis – use saliva or lube. Many women say this is their favourite position, because of where the penis stimulates the inside of her vagina and the depth the penis can reach, but this will depend entirely on the anatomical sizes and shapes of both partners’ bodies. The Uncloak the Clitoris sex position is here to remind you that you’re never too cool for hand stuff. Another reminder: the vast majority of people with vulvas can’t orgasm from penetration alone (which is totally fine — and orgasm isn’t the point of good sex anyway!). But if you are looking to help your partner get off, keeping your hands free to give their clitoris some love is an expert move. This way she gets to grind her clitoris on his body with every movement, or she can stimulate it with her hand, and she can control how deep the penis goes.

Sex is a massive topic, so this article covers the most basic level of sex, what it is and how to learn the arts of the sought-after lover. This is for male-female sex that includes one penis and one vagina. Keep in mind that many women actually can’t orgasm through penetrative sex alone, so although it might be nice, it may not be the position she loves the most. Make sure your pubes and pubic mound are stimulating her clitoris. Woman on top – Some people may experience symptoms including increased, malodorous, colored vaginal discharge, vulvar pain and itchiness, and/or pain with urination or sexual intercourse (17)

Because the more comfortable you are in your body going into the fun, the more you’ll be able to relax into it. O'Connell HE, Sanjeevan KV, Hutson JM. Anatomy of the clitoris. The Journal of urology. 2005 Oct 31;174(4):1189-95. At the end of the day though, the best position is whatever position works best for you and your partner, and allows the receiver to be most relaxed and comfortable. Some popular positions for starting anal sex include:

Self-Loving (On Your Knees)

If you’re using sex toys or condoms, the best lube options are water- or silicone-based. Which one is best for you depends on your needs. Silicone-based lubes tend to last longer but aren’t compatible with silicone toys. Water-based lubes are compatible with any sex toys and condoms. But can contain glycerin, which is an allergen for some people. If you already know you’re sensitive to it, keep an eye on the ingredients and opt for a glycerin-free lube . Products to avoid The base partner (representing Shiva, who is energetically or physically penetrative) sits cross-legged on a pillow in the "holding" position while the other partner (representing Shakti, who is energetically or physically receptive) can either drape their legs over their partner's legs with their butt on the bed or a pillow or can fully sit in the lap of their partner. The base partner's arms should go around the waist of the other partner, whose arms go around the shoulders of the base partner. Your heads can be cheek to cheek, or you can touch forehead to forehead. This position aligns the chakras of the partners and allows for sexual energy to move upward along the spine. There is no cure for HIV, but medications are available that can keep the viral load low and greatly reduce the risk of both transmitting and contracting HIV (18) Toby and Stormy answer your questions on cold sores and herpes, squirting and female ejaculation, post-baby vaginas, shaving your genitals, period sex, and lasting longer in bed. It’s worth noting that some people genuinely enjoy and prefer silence during sex, and that’s okay too. Dr. Jansen has come across such cases in her practice. But if you have a timid lover who is interested in talking dirty but isn’t sure where to start, you can help them venture out of their comfort zone by teeing up opportunities for them to follow your lead. If you are that timid lover, ask your partner to give you direction on sexy things to say.

Discussing STIs more openly with peers and telling your partners is not only necessary for your sexual health, but also important for fighting stigmas and breaking societal and cultural taboos. World Health Organization. HIV/AIDS key facts. who.int. 19 Jul 2018. Available from: http://www.who.int/en/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/hiv-aids Touching your own body parts to cause sexual pleasure. This can be done alone or at the same time as someone else. Sex toys can be used during masturbation, including vibrators, dildos, anal toys, and more. Shower sex is meant to be a hands-on activity, clearly — so the Soap’n’Grope variation of a standing position allows the penetrating partner to do a bit more exploring. The partner being penetrated should brace themselves on an available wall as the penetrating partner enters from behind. It’s easily the dirtiest way to have good, clean fun.You may know this position by its other less SFW name —“face sitting”— but Queening in Bondage is when a partner recieves oral stimulation while resting on or above their partner’s mouth. Adding restraint play to this is yet another way to up the sensation and intensity of the scene or sexual encounter, allowing the receiving partner to really own the power of the pose (as pictured here) or offering an equally sexy subversion if you switch places. The Layer Cake is an intimate grinding move allows for maximum clitoral stimulation, and believe us, you’ll see why. The receiving partner can lie flat on top, either facing towards or away from the penetrating partner (both are equally fun), and grasp the edge of the bed to get some friction going. And this position is nothing if not versatile! The penetrating partner can also be on top, using their arms to pump and grind.