Confessions of an Office Worker: Before, during and after a Pandemic

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I never expected it to get as serious as it became, and I think that really is the danger with having an affair. We fell in love. He was absolutely besotted with me, and we would share things with each other that we never shared with anyone else. Hi Jen, Thank you for your nice comments…I am happy you found the article helpful. It is counter-intuitive to make peace with OCD, since it is the source of the discomfort you are feeling. But since we have little choice about what thoughts / feelings show up, it is better to work with what you are offered. Lowering resistance can be the new goal rather than ridding yourself of thoughts and feelings. OCD doesn’t have a cure, but you can surely change your relationship with it. We started having sex a couple of months after he was married. The guilt was horrible, but yet I couldn't stop. I created a dummy Facebook account and tried to tell his wife, but he somehow managed to explain it away. We stopped for a little while but eventually started up again. I worked with a guy, and we had an immediate connection. When I first saw him, I remember I thought about him the whole day and wondered where in the building he worked, even though we literally just said hi in passing. I later learned that he, too, thought about me all day, and he felt like he knew me when we’d never met. We were both married." But I still can’t seem to differentiate between some obsessions and reality, especially with regard to OCD guilt and normal guilt. Sometimes people SHOULD feel guilty, so how can I tell if I’m dismissing the type of guilt that leads you to try to do better in future, along with OCD guilt? Well, who am I kidding, I don’t dismiss any guilt.

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Lastly, forcing yourself to feel guilty may be a ritual as well. Since you are afraid of letting yourself off the hook from guilt for fear you may become a sociopath, forcing guilt to feel like a good human being is a compulsion. A compulsion is anything you are doing to prevent a feared outcome and feel less anxiety / uncertainty. As a colleague of mine wisely said, “Embrace your inner sociopath.” You don’t need to figure anything out, it is an OCD trap. If you are feeling suicidal, you will want to make sure you are under the care of a mental health professional. It would be good to get the assistance of an OCD specialist. It was a bit awkward at first. It felt so natural being with him though, like we were meant to be this whole time. We eventually started carrying on a romantic relationship. When his wife was working and both of us didn't have to work nights at our job, we'd go on dates: out to dinner, go for drives, go to each other's houses, and have sex. It was amazing. Life as an office worker, the mundane day to day chores, the challenges of life and the hell of going through a pandemic. I had a thought that told me to walk around the left side of a pole in a parking garage. I followed the thought’s instruction. Another thought appeared, telling me to inconveniently walk the long way around a 2nd pole! That’s when it got ridiculous and I didn’t do it.Eventually I moved in with the man from work and got custody of my kids. He was amazing from the very start. The kids had a lot to unlearn. The oldest had a habit of getting in the middle when her younger siblings were in trouble, an almost unconscious need to protect them from the man in the house. Eventually they learned he would never hurt them and began to build relationships with him and trust him. When I see opaque, white soap in public bathrooms I think of semen. This gem of a thought came from a few different clients and it is triggered now when I see white soap. You will have it now too and you have me to thank for it. We’ve been married for years now, and the affair was the best thing I ever did for myself and for my kids. He’s an amazing dad and the kind of husband I couldn’t have even imagined a decade ago. I have regrets, but none about the affair that led to our eventual marriage." We hooked up that night and basically never left each other’s side again (his wife lived a couple hours away). We have been together for two years now, and we are ridiculously happy. That stupid movie love that I always thought was fake. We are best friends.

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Hi Salvador, It sounds like you are going through a difficult time with your intrusive thoughts. OCD thoughts can feel very real and dangerous, but that doesn’t mean they are. One of the hallmarks of OCD is that you do not have certainty if they are legitimate thoughts vs. OCD thoughts. Compulsions are ways to try to gain certainty if your thoughts are real, but only make the OCD worse. Acceptance of thoughts, feelings and uncertainty can be the first step. It would be a good idea to meet with an OCD specialist to help you to understand your thoughts and how to respond to them with openness and acceptance. It was not until our wrap party when they both showed up with their significant others that everybody felt SUPER awkward. They avoided each other all night, and it was super surreal. About a year later, I got a text out of the blue, and we rekindled things for a while. He was single at that time, but we kind of just fizzled out. I saw recently that he’s now married, funnily enough to someone else from our mutual workplace."Hello….THANKS for the information.I NEVER thought about this.About my mental compulsions.This is totally true.Because that’s what I do.I always try to make sure that my family is not in danger, that I’m not in danger;that I’m right with my sexual orientation; making sure that my religious believes are correct.Or making sure that I’ll have success in life.This information makes things more clear for me.I thought that the compulsions were ONLY phisical.But I understand now that they can be ALSO mental.Tha’s very important to me…THANKS VERY MUCH…… One day, we were having a drink at a hotel, and his fiancé messaged him asking if he was having an affair, because he is out so many nights a week when he used to not even be out on one. I watched him type, 'How could you even ask me that? Of course I'm not. You're crazy!' That should have been the warning sign for me.