The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, and Validation: A Dialectical Behaviour Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy & Validation

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Annor, F. et al. (2020). Emotional violence in childhood and health conditions, risk-taking behaviors, and violence perpetration among young adults in Nigeria. Child Abuse and Neglect, 106. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.chiabu.2020.104510 X Digestive listening. Instead of listening like an adversary for what=s wrong with what the other is saying, cooperative partners listen to learn, to sponge in what makes sense in what their partner says. ABut . .@ indicates that the prior comments are being deleted, not digested.

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Access-restricted-item true Addeddate 2011-10-06 21:58:13 Boxid IA172001 Boxid_2 CH122701 Camera Canon EOS 5D Mark II City Oakland, CA Donor In the case of the high-conflict couple, being confronted with a disowned part of “ self ” can be very triggering, as it stirs up an unconscious, unresolved part emotional development he or she may not want to confront on a daily basis. In other words, this scenario with Sue and George really was not just about the paper towels.The conflict-oriented mind-set tends to see just two options during an argument: escape or win. As Bill Eddy wrote, “High-conflict behaviovr is anything that increases rather than manages or decreases conflict — screaming, throwing things, shoving, hitting, lying, spreading rumors, refusing to talk for more than a day, and disappearing for a long time.” If it’s not clear from this description, it is ruinous to relationships. It is often not the experience of the e motion that causes a problem, but rather, the interpretation of the emotion. X A paranoid-like blaming stance with a rigidly-held set of beliefs about the other (a fixed ideational system), ego-syntonic controlling behavior, and projection.

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Convert blame after upsets to apologies and learning. Teach the couple to piece together the puzzle of what happened, with each spouse describing his/her own feelings, thoughts, actions, and mistakes. Attribute the problem to a Amis-@, e.g., a misunderstanding, mistake, miscommunication. Guide apologies, with each spouse owning his part in the difficulties. Conclude with each having learned something that will help to prevent future similar upsets.

It's full of helpful guidelines for a couple who want to overcome conflict and be the best versions of themselves and learn how to be on each other's side and validate each other's human experience.